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Venus square Neptune

A natal Venus square Neptune makes you idealistic, believing in the potential to reshape the world around you through your inner vision of imaginative possibilities. You may also be creatively active, someone who not only fantasizes and daydreams but also makes determined effort to manifest your imagination through artistic media or other outlets. Since you can also be overly idealistic about the people you care about, it will be important to develop discernment with regard to what is actually happening in your relationships, versus what you wish was happening. At times, your relationship experiences may lead you into periods of disillusionment that ultimately strip away illusory beliefs and perceptions you had been holding onto. You can utilize times of disillusionment to penetrate into the underlying values that have been sourcing your beliefs and ideals, emerging with a more grounded sense of what’s truly worthwhile to embody.

Venus square Neptune

Venus square Neptune aspect indicates a suggestible romantic nature. Being “in love with love” is a strong possibility. Natives with hard Venus-Neptune aspects are naturally compassionate and are generally willing to go over the top for a loved one. It’s hard to say whether their expectations in personal relationships are too high or too low. On the one hand, they tend to easily accept behaviours in their partners that others wouldn’t accept, as they are compassionate and even drawn to people who others might consider trouble. On the other hand, their romantic dreams may be so powerful that they are easily disappointed with the reality of relationships. Deception in love is possible, but self-deception is even more likely. In love, they see what they want to see, rather than what is. Feelings of being used or deceived may come up for these people more than for most. However, if a distinct pattern exists in their love lives that involves them being let down, deceived or used, it will be especially worthwhile to examine whether self-deception was at work. The possibility of clinging to romantic delusions is very high with this position. For example, some with these aspects cling to a romantic notion that someone loves them when in reality that person doesn’t return the affection. Or, they may cling to a romance that has lost all hope. Another possibility is devoting their love to someone who is unattainable or who is unable to commit. Yet another Venus-Neptune scenario is loving someone who treats them badly, all the while clinging to an idealized image of the partner. No matter what the scenario, romantic yearning and longing, as well as delusion, tends to be the theme. The expectation here is that loving someone requires self-sacrifice. The result is an attraction to relationships that are co-dependent and even abusive. Venus-Neptune people are drawn to victim/savoir relationships, and they can play either the role of victim or savoir! Dependency or neediness in a partner can be confused for love. In an attempt to love unconditionally, they may too readily sacrifice their own needs and eventually feel used. The challenge for these people is to truly love a partner for who he or she is, not for his or her perceived potential. Because they yearn to be loved, it can be hard for them to see that they are actually afraid of a complete, committed relationship. One symptom of this fear is loving someone for an idealized image they have of that person, as they are effectively choosing fantasy over reality. Another symptom is loving someone who is inaccessible or unattainable, as this keeps them “safe” from a true and realistic commitment. At the root of this fear is the awareness of their own vulnerability in love. Venus rules money as well as social relationships, and a person with hard Venus-Neptune aspects can just as well lose money due to the tendency to gloss over problems. Just as they tend to ignore warning signs in personal relationships, they can let money slip through their fingers because they neglect to keep records or account for their belongings. They may have problems with “borrowing from their future” because of overly optimistic attitudes. They may continuously get the short end of the stick as they lend money to people who never pay them back, or invest in unrealistic projects.

Venus square Neptune romanticism could be unrealistic

Venus square Neptune creates difficulties with how you love yourself and how you love others. Without corrective action, this can lead to low self-esteem and disappointment in love. Loving yourself is essential to having healthy and loving relationships. Therefore, learning to love yourself is vital in addressing this challenging aspect. It is common with this aspect to feel unloved, unlovable, victimized, and even ostracized. You may feel that you are too different or strange in the eyes of others, and not accepted by the in-crowd. It is important to realize that what you feel others think of you may not actually be true. If there were any truth to this perception, then it would be in large part due to the signals you are sending out about yourself. Once you come to the realization that Neptune is distorting your self-image, you can get to work on improving how you feel about yourself. As Neptune rules mirrors, film, and screens, a great way to improve self-love is to repeat positive affirmations in the mirror. As Venus rules beauty, it can be worthwhile spending time enhancing your appearance through cosmetics and fashion. Show off to yourself in front of the mirror, or take selfies, even video yourself and see how beautiful you really are. Dance around a bit, be sexy and strip off even, No one has to see… not if you don’t want them to. Once you really love yourself inside and out, then you will find that your love life and other areas of life will improve. However, it is also possible that Neptune may distort your appreciation of other people. There would be a tendency to over-idealize romantic partners, being blind to their faults. This would leave you susceptible to major disappointment, being taken advantage of or being someone’s doormat, or even their sex slave. Another major danger of not addressing your self-image is that of self-abuse. The opposite of love is hate, and hating yourself would lead to a downward spiral of self-harm. This would include unhealthy eating, leading to either obesity or anorexia. Depression is a major reason for addiction to alcohol and other poisonous drugs or medications.

When Venus squares Neptune, this energy can put us deep in our feelings. We may be extra sensitive to the opinions of others and feel less confident in ourselves. During this transit, you may not feel very loved. You may even experience disappointments in your love life due to a distorted image of someone else. There is a tendency to over-idealize romantic interests – you may fall head over heels in the potential of someone, rather than observing what’s there.  A Venus square Neptune transit in astrology distorts our abilities to discern. It is best not to make any rash decisions that alter the way you look or deepen a commitment with a lover at this time. Don’t trust what you see. Trust what is told to you.

Sensuality, frivolity, indulgence in drugs, alcohol, the subconscious opposes sensory desires


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