Nazaudy, a spark in your curious mind

Venus conjunction Saturn

Venus conjunction Saturn makes you a very loyal and caring person, but you can have trouble showing it. This can lead to delay and restraint in forming close relationships. You long for love and affection, but there seem to be many impediments to achieving this. Life will throw up some painful experiences for you to learn how to love yourself and love others. This can be a karmic aspect. People from previous lives that felt betrayed or hurt by you will seek you out in this life to teach you a lesson and balance things out. It is also possible that people who hurt you in previous incarnations will come back with love to give and valuable lessons to teach. Once you have reached a certain evolutionary point, hardship and sorrow will give way to loving and lasting relationships. Venus conjunction Saturn can be most challenging while growing up. Lack of self-love or self-respect is usually the main reason for shyness or inability to maintain close relationships. This would be much worse if parents or teachers were hard on you. You may have faced privation, meanness, withdrawal of love and affection, or absence, especially from your father. Abuse is also possible, but the main point is that you may have felt unloved and not valued by others. Rejection, isolation, and loneliness exacerbate these difficulties as you miss out on developing social and personal interaction skills. Social awkwardness is likely, and you would most likely prefer mixing with only one person or a minimal number of people at any time. The more you feel bad about yourself, the more people will avoid you. Imagine wearing a sign around your neck that says “unlovable.” Your karmic lesson in this life is to love yourself so others can love you. You may experience periods of isolation in between relationships. Breakups and divorce are common with this aspect.

On a personal level, Venus conjunction Saturn people hold back free expression of their feelings, especially with regard to expressions of love. Mind you, they are masters of compromise, duty, and responsibility to their mates, and it is through this dedication that they do in fact express their love. Sometimes, there is some form of deprivation in the childhood, associated with the family or caregiver. Most commonly, the child absorbs something from the parents’ relationship that results in a deep sense of obligation towards the mate and emotional reserve. Fear of letting go, enjoying the moment, and expressing love openly is strong. Although this aspect in classical astrology is associated with a delayed marriage or loneliness, I see it much more frequently in the charts of people who do indeed “partner”, often early, and who stick to the relationship through thick and thin. Often, they are lonely even though they are partnered. Commonly as well, they bend to a demanding partner much of their lives. There is fear associated with love, and many people with this position struggle with a lack of confidence. One of their greatest fears is rejection. Another reason why they might remain loyal to a challenging marriage can be a fear of letting down family and of what he or she feels would be a blow to the reputation. Sometimes, material concerns are connected with relationships. Some stick to relationships because they give them a sense of material security. Self-sacrifice is extremely common with this position. However, even though they crave more than anything to be loved unconditionally, their conviction that they won’t get that kind of love keeps them from really trying to find it. With Saturn, there is a simultaneous fear of failure and fear of success that keeps people from feeling free or brave enough to go after what they truly want.

Difficult aspects between Venus and Saturn are generally considered the most challenging of all natal aspects by most astrologers. It feels worse because it is love that most people want in this life, and you are deprived of that for some time. While young, you may prefer the company of more serious or older people. When older, you may prefer a younger partner. However, patience, hard work, and determination will be rewarded, as is the case with any challenging Saturn aspect. The more you learn to accept and love yourself, the more you can express your love and affection. Self-respect brings respect from others, and you will earn the love and loyalty you deserve. The same conditions experienced in your love life can also apply to your finances. The lesson is to learn the value of money and how to keep enough of it to live on. Eventually, as with love, you will learn to hold onto it and not experience periods of restraint or poverty. Saving and investing will bring you the stability and security you seek.

There can be a somewhat detached manner, and many people with this aspect (especially men) can come across as sceptical, matter-of-fact, and even superficial on a social level. They are masters at protecting their feelings, and do whatever they can to avoid letting others know of their vulnerabilities. Of course, this kind of defence mechanism further prevents them from finding happiness in love. It is so very hard for them to let down their defences. They’ll need to really know where they stand with you before they can feel at least somewhat safe. Negative expectations in love must be handled in order to begin work on handling this aspect. The good news with Saturn is that its energy is handled better with time and maturity. These people should make a conscious effort to evaluate their behaviour. If they admit to themselves that they do in fact want and need to be loved by a partner, they can work on slowly dropping their defences. For example, keeping loved ones at arm’s length and pretending that you are just fine on your own isn’t going to encourage intimacy. Jumping to negative conclusions or withdrawing emotionally when an expression of warmth is not received exactly as you intended is not going to help either.

It’s also a good idea to examine the choice of partners. There can be an unconscious attraction to people who love you for all the wrong reasons–for superficial or material reasons. Maintaining “business-like” love relationships somehow keeps people with these aspects feeling safe, but they unfortunately perpetuate a deep feeling of loneliness and unworthiness. With the conjunction, and especially with supporting aspects from other planets, these people have every opportunity to advance in their chosen career. Business sense is strong, especially in the areas of finance and the arts. Commitment, whether to a pet project, a job, a business, or a person, is characteristic. Intimacy does not come easily to you and you may appear cold or unfeeling to others due to your emotional reserve and caution. Perhaps due to painful relationships and separations in your early life, you do not trust others very easily and it takes a long time to take down all of your barriers and defences. You may feel that you have few friends or people that really care about you. You need to learn to value and love yourself more and to express your appreciation for others more openly. You are reserved. You don’t jump into a spiritual practice any more than you jump into a love relationship. You may do best with a spiritual teacher who is much older or younger than yourself. You accept endings as a necessary part of life.

With Venus conjunction Saturn at the time of your birth, you’re someone who aspires to build structures and forms in your community that reflect your values and aesthetics. You are ambitious and willing to take on the associated responsibilities required to fulfil your goals through hard work and determined effort. Seen as a charismatic embodiment of the ideals you share with others; you also have the potential to grow into an inspirational leader in your chosen field of interest. Due to your capacity for overcoming obstacles and achieving your aspirations, it will be important to get clear about your authentic values, as separate from the norms and values of your dominant culture. Otherwise, you could risk losing touch with your true ideals in order to appear accomplished according to external, societal standards. In your relationships, when you’re hurt by someone, you have a tendency to put up a barrier of protection sealing yourself off from them. In some cases, this will be necessary, at other times you may have to balance your need for boundaries with the necessity of maintaining a difficult relationship.



Recommended reading to understand Astrology

Is Astrology real? Can it predict my future?


References and further reading


People with this aspect